As with all changes, sometimes it takes a while before we truly understand what things mean. Some call it hindsight, but we all usually arrive at a moment after we've made a change, when the true impact of the change becomes clear.
When change is thrust upon our lives, then we must follow the Kübler-Ross model until we reach the stage of acceptance, do we achieve peace and understanding. Now the five stages of grief are usually reserved for dealing with death or tragedy, if we are listening to our soul, as Thomas Moore suggests, the definitions of what is tragic broaden.
As anyone who has passed from full employment to disability knows, there is no other way to describe the change than tragic. So, at least for me, getting to the point where I accept disability is ongoing. What I think is more elusive is getting your loved ones to see disability as a tragic change and undergo their own process of grief.
When change is thrust upon our lives, then we must follow the Kübler-Ross model until we reach the stage of acceptance, do we achieve peace and understanding. Now the five stages of grief are usually reserved for dealing with death or tragedy, if we are listening to our soul, as Thomas Moore suggests, the definitions of what is tragic broaden.
As anyone who has passed from full employment to disability knows, there is no other way to describe the change than tragic. So, at least for me, getting to the point where I accept disability is ongoing. What I think is more elusive is getting your loved ones to see disability as a tragic change and undergo their own process of grief.
